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Thursday Thoughts: Week 17 – Happiness

Thursday Thoughts happiness The Wandering Asian Couple

I’ve now rewritten this post a few times since we hopped on a cruise on the 17th (a week ago) and have been in and out of wifi. Knowing that this blog is my project, it’s been a bit frustrating missing my posting dates. However, I need to realize that it’s NOT the end of the world. We will be back on track in the next week or so…fingers crossed.

Happiness

In reading Jordan Peterson’s book, The Twelve Rules For Life: An Antidote to Chaos”, and watching some of his talks, I’ve come to realize that I have been focusing only on a goal rather than the process of the goal. When we aim for a goal, we don’t concentrate on the process of the goal. My only focus was on the achievement and once I reached that goal, it provided me with momentary gratification.

We all want happiness in our lives, so we set goals which we think will bring us happiness. For me, those goals brought me happiness but shortly after, it faded. The gratification from accomplishing a goal was temporary and soon after I had the feeling of unfufillment again.

Jordan Peterson says,

People attach themselves to something for the wrong reasons”

People need to have a goal that’s beyond the gratification of impulses at the moment”

The media makes us think that we need certain things to be happy. If you have the big home, a closet full of all the latest fashion, and the picture perfect family then you will be happy.

A couple months into our slow travels, I realized that the happiness of reaching my goal was fading. Don’t get me wrong, I am very appreciative that I get to experience this travel journey. However, I wasn’t happy because I no longer had any goals. I thought that early retirement would bring me ultimate happiness (I can just enjoy myself, do whatever I wanted, etc.). And because I no longer had a goal, I found myself with no purpose. Once I have meaning or purpose, then happiness will become longer term and consistent rather than temporary.

People need to have a goal to come to terms with their life”

It’s a luxury to pursue what makes you happy, but it’s a moral obligation for what you pursue that is meaningful. It’s a moral responsibility to pursue what’s meaningful.”

~Jordan Peterson~

Am I reading too much about my feelings? Do I have too much time on my hands? Maybe. But like I’ve mentioned in an earlier post, I always need to be productive and this is why I write about this journey. However, maybe I need more Purpose in my life. Being away from family and friends makes you question your purpose since you don’t feel like you’re having any impact on anyone or anything.

P.S. – If you’ve missed any Thursday Thoughts posts, you can find them all here.

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4 Comments

  • Reply WTK

    Hi Alicia,

    You should not have such thoughts. The circumstance in which you are in presently, is one of the best moment of your life. You need to take life easily and be content and simple in order to live the life to the fullest. I am not sure on your thoughts as I do not know you well. I do have such thinking when I imagine the circumstance in which I have a lot of time at my disposal. To be honest, the time which we have left, is limited. As I am tying this comment, my lifespan is getting shorter. Therefore, the most important thing is to be happy in what you are doing.

    I am not sure whether you like the fast-paced pattern in the workplace. I personally do not like such pace. However, I work about 15 hours a day (8.30am to 11.00pm) on weekdays. I am totally exhausted and my health has taken a toll due to long hours of work. I make plan to exit such workplace and know that my life will be at stake if I continue to work in such working hours.

    I hope that the above circumstance does not bore you. The purpose of stating such circumstance is to let you know the excellent circumstance you are in presently.You may want to consider developing your interest and embark on the things which you like. Life is about enjoyment. Live it to the fullest.

    WTK

    January 28, 2019 at 7:47 am
    • Reply Alicia

      Hi WTK, thanks so much for your response, they are very much appreciated. I am definitely enjoying every moment on this journey and am happy that I get to do this. I believe that everyone looks for their own “meaning” in life and whatever that meaning is will ultimately bring them happiness.

      January 29, 2019 at 9:06 am
  • Reply SL

    Thank you for sharing such intimate thoughts. Whichever route you take this “project”, your journey will be the most memorable. I am joyful and thankful for the opportunity to read and compare the Thursday thoughts. As an example, our society likes to label people with all sorts of “characters”, but I’ve come to realize I have all those “characters”, I am not defined by any singular definition, instead “show” these characters because of the exterior influences, we encompass our surrounding…

    January 28, 2019 at 11:05 am
    • Reply Alicia

      One of the reasons I write Thursday Thoughts is to document my thoughts during a particular period in time. I believe that these thoughts may dictate how I feel about a certain place. For example, if I’m feeling homesick, it would probably impact my impressions of the place I’m in.

      I do also agree that sometimes society and our environment can definitely have an influence on us.

      Thanks for your comments!

      January 29, 2019 at 9:15 am

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