I’ve now rewritten this post a few times since we hopped on a cruise on the 17th (a week ago) and have been in and out of wifi. Knowing that this blog is my project, it’s been a bit frustrating missing my posting dates. However, I need to realize that it’s NOT the end of the world. We will be back on track in the next week or so…fingers crossed.
In reading Jordan Peterson’s book, The Twelve Rules For Life: An Antidote to Chaos”, and watching some of his talks, I’ve come to realize that I have been focusing only on a goal rather than the process of the goal. When we aim for a goal, we don’t concentrate on the process of the goal. My only focus was on the achievement and once I reached that goal, it provided me with momentary gratification.
We all want happiness in our lives, so we set goals which we think will bring us happiness. For me, those goals brought me happiness but shortly after, it faded. The gratification from accomplishing a goal was temporary and soon after I had the feeling of unfufillment again.
Jordan Peterson says,
People attach themselves to something for the wrong reasons”
People need to have a goal that’s beyond the gratification of impulses at the moment”
The media makes us think that we need certain things to be happy. If you have the big home, a closet full of all the latest fashion, and the picture perfect family then you will be happy.
A couple months into our slow travels, I realized that the happiness of reaching my goal was fading. Don’t get me wrong, I am very appreciative that I get to experience this travel journey. However, I wasn’t happy because I no longer had any goals. I thought that early retirement would bring me ultimate happiness (I can just enjoy myself, do whatever I wanted, etc.). And because I no longer had a goal, I found myself with no purpose. Once I have meaning or purpose, then happiness will become longer term and consistent rather than temporary.
People need to have a goal to come to terms with their life”
It’s a luxury to pursue what makes you happy, but it’s a moral obligation for what you pursue that is meaningful. It’s a moral responsibility to pursue what’s meaningful.”
Am I reading too much about my feelings? Do I have too much time on my hands? Maybe. But like I’ve mentioned in an earlier post, I always need to be productive and this is why I write about this journey. However, maybe I need more Purpose in my life. Being away from family and friends makes you question your purpose since you don’t feel like you’re having any impact on anyone or anything.
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