Thursday Thoughts

Thursday Thoughts: Week 26 Being Singled Out

Thursday Thoughts Singled Out The Wandering Asian Couple

We’ve now been on this travel journey for over 6 months. We’ve travelled through North America to Japan and then throughout Southeast Asia. Currently, we are in the South Pacific and travelling around Australia and New Zealand. Also, I must point out that this has not been our first time visiting SE Asia; it is, however, our first time vacationing in Australia and NZ. One thing we’ve both noticed is how we’ve been “singled out“.

We know that discrimination (unfortunately) still exists in today’s society. And, although, I’ve been through it as a child, I’ve never had to go through it in the 21st century. There have been many occasions throughout our prior travels, as well as during this recent travel, where we’ve noticed a quietness with stares from certain races towards us. These actions we encountered were quite subdued and we really didn’t make much of it. We’ve also encountered a difference in service from certain service staffs.

Singled Out

Up until recently, I’ve never really focused much of my attention on these little innuendos. However, we encountered being singled out, on a few occasions where we were blatantly spoken to with a racist comment. The first time this had happened, I think we were both flabbergasted. It really blew our minds! We were experiencing something which we had thought we would never experience (again – for me). Especially when this took place, not while we were in a developing country, but while we were in a first world country!

Maybe we’ve been sheltered in adulthood since we live in a culturally diverse city. But seeing this side of the world really sank our hearts. It has also made me more aware of the stares and the treatment from others.

The reason why I wanted to talk about this and write about it, is actually more for me to let it all go. Recently, I’ve recognized that too much of my energy has been spent focusing on these pretentious and ignorant people. They really don’t deserve any recognition at all.

The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent full of doubt.”
—Bertrand Russell

I guess there will always be these types of people, since perfection isn’t a thing when we look at the world. We can’t exact control the actions of others (and I really wouldn’t want to), but we can control our own actions. And my time isn’t worth dwelling on something so obtuse and idiotic.

Be confident with who you are and don’t let anyone take that away from you.

Don’t let others put thoughts into your mind that takes away your self-confidence.”
—Katori Hill


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  • Reply SL

    The best lesson I’ve learnt over the years is to not give the ignorant the power over my feelings.

    April 4, 2019 at 11:17 am
    • Reply Alicia

      I totally agree! I think I was just in shock that something so petty still exists in today’s society. Thanks for your feedback! 🙂

      April 9, 2019 at 2:15 am
  • Reply WTK

    Hi Alicia,

    I can understand such feeling. The best approach is to forget it and focus on the things which we like. There’s no time for such negative thought.


    April 5, 2019 at 4:04 am
    • Reply Alicia

      Thanks, WTK. I’m with you there, wasted time dwelling on the negativity.

      I hope you’re enjoying your last few days/weeks of this chapter in your life. 🙂

      April 9, 2019 at 2:16 am
  • Reply WTK

    Hi Alicia,

    Thank for your well wishes. I have been clearing the remaining amount of work for my full time employment. Time flies. It will be seven working days before I embark on another chapter of my life.

    Best Regards,


    April 21, 2019 at 10:58 am
    • Reply Alicia

      That’s very exciting and yes, before you know it your full-time employment will be a memory in the past. 🙂 Best wishes!

      April 24, 2019 at 9:07 pm

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